Learn to Say...

"That doesn't work for me..."
"This really works for me..."
"Is this a good time for us to talk?"
"I can really understand that you feel that way!"

"I would like a do-over."
"Most of us think of our mothers as our mothers rather than as a Person with a Life."

Wynonna Judd

Dysfunction...

"We were a dysfunctional family that learned how to function."
"The Jets" Singing group about their family of origin.

Trust

"How much we trust others is directly proportionate to how much we trust ourselves to deal with whatever they bring to us."
Dr Phil

Empathically Genuine

"You can be empathically genuine without being brutally honest."
Dr Phil

Useful Perspective...

This is from a book written by Brent Barlow of BYU.

Here's to patience... and persistence... and working towards the goal of freedom and unity... and allowing the seeds to be nurtured and cared for until they eventually bear fruit.

(Double click on the image to perhaps read it more clearly...)

Anger

"When you are angry there is no room for love and goodness.
Anger and bitterness are emotional termites."
Terry McMillan

"The anger lingered... and it wore me out.
Anger consumed my life."
Jonathan (Guest on a talk show)

Raising your Voice

"Don't raise your voice - improve your argument."
Desmond Tutu's father