Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Sound Basics!

Years ago I saw this in the middle of Roodepoort. I liked it well enough to buy it.

Since then I have learnt a thing or two more. So here are my revisions:

6. ... Never look for my faults - you will see them clearly enough without looking for them.
7. ... Even better: we find out how to both win in our arguments!
8. Let us settle our differences before we go to sleep when we possibly can.
10. Remember to pray to God. He will help us solve all our problems. We will have to do the work needed to live in peace and co-operation with each other.

Take what feels useful to you - you will know what you need to work on.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Monday, March 7, 2011

Changing Colours

Autumn this year in the mountains of my home has been truly spectacular. It is like an angel artist has been assigned to paint each tree in the most glorious colours imaginable. Perhaps it is the wisdom of age that has helped my eyes to see more clearly. Still, to me the leaves have never looked as beautiful as they do this Fall.

One tree in my backyard has especially caught my attention. Every year before this one its leaves had always turned to a rich, vibrant red in October. This year, though, the entire tree was bathed in the most outrageous orange. It was both delightful and amazing to watch this tree suddenly change its colours.

Looking at that bright, orange beacon in my backyard made me think too of how we can go about changing our own colours. I remember when cold, dark hues coloured my own heart, soul, and mind. I remember when fear, apathy, and selfishness coloured my life. I remember when my only thoughts were of my own wants, needs, and desires. It was an ugly picture indeed.

One day, however, I am not sure exactly when, that picture started to change. It started with a single brush stroke, one kind act, and one loving thought. This was followed by another and another. Each one brought a new dab of colour and brightness into my heart, soul, and mind. Slowly, choice by choice, moment by moment, and day by day I began to turn the cold, dark, miserable November of my life into a warm, shining, and loving October.

God in His endless love never ceases to give us fresh chances to change our colours, change our lives, and change the world. Each day is full of new opportunities to paint our hearts, souls, and minds with the brightness of love.

Each day is full of moments to bring the colours of joy to this often drab world. We are the artists of our own lives. May we forever colour them beautiful.

By: Joseph J. Mazzella

Monday, February 21, 2011

Ten Truths About Marriage

1 You can’t make your spouse love you, and NOBODY else can make you happy – or unhappy.

2 Try all you want, YOU’LL never change your spouse. However, if you improve yourself, he or she may also decide to make some changes.

3 You didn’t marry your spouse, you married an illusion of your spouse. (What a surprise to discover that your spouse is as human as you are.)

4 A real marriage begins at the point that your illusion truly ENDS. The challenge of your marriage is to discover who YOU actually are, as well as the REAL person you married.

5 Love is only one of the reasons you chose your spouse. (Sometimes it’s not the most important reason.)

6 Most likely, the qualities in your spouse that drive you crazy now, are the same ones (labelled differently) that first attracted you.

7 It’s impossible to go through your growing relationship without experiencing periods of INTENSE pain and loneliness.

8 The greatest gift you can give your children is persistence, patience, and a growing, loving, respectful marriage to their other parent.

9 Your marriage succeeds when you each realise that your spouse’s needs are at least as important as your own.

10 Marriage is the best opportunity to grow, overcome selfishness and learn how to love deeply and well.

Learn every day how to more effectively nurture yourself and your growing marriage.

GROW UP. Get Rid Of (your) Weaknesses Under Pressure.

Originally from: (Michael Tobin, James Framo)

Monday, February 7, 2011

Love...

"You come to love, not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly."
Sam Keen - seen at Anna Paula Coffee Shop

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Change

"God is not so interested in changing your circumstances as He is in changing... you."
Joyce Meyer

Monday, January 31, 2011

Sunset


"One of the most satisfying experiences I know is to fully appreciate an individual in the same way I appreciate a sunset. When I look at a sunset... I don't find myself saying 'Soften the orange a little more on the right hand corner, and put a bit more purple along the base, and use a little more pink in the cloud colour...' I don't try to control a sunset. I watch it with awe as it unfolds."
Carl Rogers