Ten Truths About Marriage

1 You can’t make your spouse love you, and NOBODY else can make you happy – or unhappy.

2 Try all you want, YOU’LL never change your spouse. However, if you improve yourself, he or she may also decide to make some changes.

3 You didn’t marry your spouse, you married an illusion of your spouse. (What a surprise to discover that your spouse is as human as you are.)

4 A real marriage begins at the point that your illusion truly ENDS. The challenge of your marriage is to discover who YOU actually are, as well as the REAL person you married.

5 Love is only one of the reasons you chose your spouse. (Sometimes it’s not the most important reason.)

6 Most likely, the qualities in your spouse that drive you crazy now, are the same ones (labelled differently) that first attracted you.

7 It’s impossible to go through your growing relationship without experiencing periods of INTENSE pain and loneliness.

8 The greatest gift you can give your children is persistence, patience, and a growing, loving, respectful marriage to their other parent.

9 Your marriage succeeds when you each realise that your spouse’s needs are at least as important as your own.

10 Marriage is the best opportunity to grow, overcome selfishness and learn how to love deeply and well.

Learn every day how to more effectively nurture yourself and your growing marriage.

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Originally from: (Michael Tobin, James Framo)

Love...

"You come to love, not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly."
Sam Keen - seen at Anna Paula Coffee Shop

Change

"God is not so interested in changing your circumstances as He is in changing... you."
Joyce Meyer