Learn...

"The more you understand, the less dangerous the risk becomes."
Austin Stevens - South African Snake man.

Be realistic and learn about marriage and your own marriage.

Solid Relationship

"You can make this relationship solid if you require things of yourself."
"It's time to take a deep breath and calm down."
"Put yourself at the top of your 'to-do' list."
"You are living... you need to do that with respect and gratitude."
Dr Phil

A Lot of Love

Said one man under suspicion "I have a lot of love to give."
Said the police officer to him "You have a lot of love to take."
Food for thought as we give and receive love in our marriages.
"Am I really a giver of love... or am I actually giving to receive, is my intention to take..."

The First Day of the Next Phase

"You can never get to the first day of the next phase of your marriage until you you have got to the last day of the previous phase of your marriage."
Dr Phil

Negotiating

"You'll be able to get a lot more by negotiating than you will get by being defiant (or bullying, or passive)."
Dr Phil

Marriage ... Strange Thing...

"Dream...
There are different ways to your destiny.
You will experience Yearning... a terrible Yearning for Something.
Go to the top of each hill along the way... look at where you have been.
These mountains you have had to climb - part of you has been blotted out.
That (inner) Child knows it no longer has to climb those mountains any more.
There has been unutterable loneliness at times.
We have walked through that. We have made our lives into what we can accept as contentment and attainment.
There is marriage... and what a strange thing that can turn out to be...
Every day you had to make a little adapting.
For many people marriage is not a joy.
It can be infinitely painful.
Some days there is concrete going through your brain.
The Little Child (inside you) is growing steadily.
Talent, creativity, originality - show it.
Together we can achieve what you dreamed of.
Hope.
Dream.
Have faith.
Take these along with you.
Every day is filled with infinite possibilities.
"I am entitled to peace and achieving happiness."
Every step is going to take you onwards and upwards - taking your (inner) Child, Teen and Young Adult with you.
Put into your life, every day, an appreciation of being alive.
Value what you take for granted.
Here's to it...
This is it!"
Source unrecorded - Professor Jonathan Jansen I think.